Gender-specifics and Males

Brett my Boy!! Its good to have you on the show. I'm glad to see you havent wasted your time with this and have decided to dive straight in. There is one point however that I will argue with ya, the part about the no expectations or impositions on men. Kay, I'm so glad you brought that up because I've never seriously thought about it until now. Men by nature, are antisocial creatures. You'll find that theres the occasional male who'll be chatty and sociable, but these people are part of a small breed. When it comes to men in general, most are sometimes hard pressed to come up with words, for instance, in the presence of a female they dont know. I think when a lot of men meet a new girl, if they like the girl deep down, they will try and think of words to say which will impress her and end up awquardly saying nothing at all. Some women may see this as rude or classless "Whats with Mr. Talker here, he just cant keep his mouth shut." I think one of the big things that many men believe is expected of them is the whole idea of masculinity. To act tough and macho and also to be physically fit. These things can be a pressure to most men if you ask me. The image of Arnold Swarzeneggar looms over many who feel that they are expected to have those kind of muscles. Maybe not to such an extent, but at least enough so that someone can poke them without their finger sinking into the flab. This is similar to women's idea that their breasts should at least reach a certain size before they decide if they really need to augment them. I think that in men's cases, some believe that they're expected to have large penises... and thats all i'll be saying of that. As Brett was saying though, if there is a case of rape, the courts seem to side with the women, but lets think about this for a moment. I'm sure that many men fear to be wrongly accused of rape not quite as much as some women fear rape, but its certainly up there. There's also the whole homosexual stigma which many men fear. Whenever men are confronted with a situation where someone might think they're being gay, even if its something small, they'll immediatly withdraw from the situation. There are also incidents of men beating up gays, which is not unusual, they're attacking something that they're afraid of. In any case, to accuse a guy of being gay, and to spread that accusation, can be utterly devastating to their self-confidence. I think that males are the targets of other males, who attack them and beat the hell out of them for sport. This can be over nothing, but because its two males, it suddenly becomes a moment of saving face and the result is oftentimes violence.