okay, so as i was starting to say on JonWong's post on April 15:
"this is going to sound really. really. really. really harsh. but i don't mean it in a mean way, but it's definitely something to think about..
you feel short-changed. but if that sort of thing, where they don't call to initiate plans.. if it occurs constantly, you ever think that maybe you're not a priority in their life? that you're not as close a friend to them than you'd like to think? and that "knowing you're gonna call" is only but a part of it?
i mean, there are different levels of close friends right..
oh fuck this, i'm posting on thereallygoodblog lol.."
okay, so what i was saying..
as you probably know, there are different levels of friendship.. and that goes for having different levels of close friendships too, and what each one means to you.
there are those close friends you have that are just.. there. you've probably gone thru shit together at one point in your life, and at that point you really needed each other.. and now you still care very much for each other.. but it just doesn't click as well anymore. you've found friends that you get along with better. now whether or not that's the case for both parties is a different story. but i personally know that.. i've got close friends that mean trust to me, and always will equal trust. i know that they'll always be there, and that i can always talk to them. but i don't.. hang out with them. why? because i have other ppl in my life at the moment, other ppl i get along with better, other ppl i would probably have a better time with, on top of being able to trust them just the same. and it sounds horrible, but that's the fact of the matter, you know.. you've just grown out of them.
i know i've drifted from close friends due to life circumstances.. but that's okay. does it mean i don't care about them? no. what it does mean is that they are no longer an immediate priority in my life; they are no longer the people i call when i go out, or when i just feel like talking, or when i've got a problem. they are my friends...
ahhh i can't think of another way to put this without sounding like a neglectful bitch.
then again, this sort of explanation only sounds bitchy if the relationship is unbalanced, you know? like if i drifted from ppl... but they haven't grown out of me or let go of me yet, then it's a harsh reality to take when i say "i still care about you, but i've got my own life now". you know? i'm not sure if it applies to your life, Jon, but i know it certainly applies to mine.
"this is going to sound really. really. really. really harsh. but i don't mean it in a mean way, but it's definitely something to think about..
you feel short-changed. but if that sort of thing, where they don't call to initiate plans.. if it occurs constantly, you ever think that maybe you're not a priority in their life? that you're not as close a friend to them than you'd like to think? and that "knowing you're gonna call" is only but a part of it?
i mean, there are different levels of close friends right..
oh fuck this, i'm posting on thereallygoodblog lol.."
okay, so what i was saying..
as you probably know, there are different levels of friendship.. and that goes for having different levels of close friendships too, and what each one means to you.
there are those close friends you have that are just.. there. you've probably gone thru shit together at one point in your life, and at that point you really needed each other.. and now you still care very much for each other.. but it just doesn't click as well anymore. you've found friends that you get along with better. now whether or not that's the case for both parties is a different story. but i personally know that.. i've got close friends that mean trust to me, and always will equal trust. i know that they'll always be there, and that i can always talk to them. but i don't.. hang out with them. why? because i have other ppl in my life at the moment, other ppl i get along with better, other ppl i would probably have a better time with, on top of being able to trust them just the same. and it sounds horrible, but that's the fact of the matter, you know.. you've just grown out of them.
i know i've drifted from close friends due to life circumstances.. but that's okay. does it mean i don't care about them? no. what it does mean is that they are no longer an immediate priority in my life; they are no longer the people i call when i go out, or when i just feel like talking, or when i've got a problem. they are my friends...
ahhh i can't think of another way to put this without sounding like a neglectful bitch.
then again, this sort of explanation only sounds bitchy if the relationship is unbalanced, you know? like if i drifted from ppl... but they haven't grown out of me or let go of me yet, then it's a harsh reality to take when i say "i still care about you, but i've got my own life now". you know? i'm not sure if it applies to your life, Jon, but i know it certainly applies to mine.
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