Signs of an Unhealthy Friendship
my wisdom to you. it's dark, it's sometimes, cruel, but it's the truth.
1) when you feel guilty about something, even though you've done nothing wrong... GET OUT!!
2) when you feel obligated to talk to this person or see this person everyday... GET OUT!!
3) when this person feels like your best friend within the span of 2 or 3 months, or even less than a year of knowing him/her... GET OUT!!
4) if you feel as though this person is sitting around, waiting for you to be free so that you guys can hang out... GET OUT!!
5) as soon as this person makes you feel suffocated... GET OUT!!
6) as soon as you feel as though you are this person's only friend and will have nothing better to do than call you or hang out with you... GET OUT!!
7) if this person gets jealous of any of your romantic endeavors... GET OUT!!
8) when you need to be putting a lot of effort into letting this person into your personal bubble because it's "the right thing to do"... GET OUT!!
9) when you start to get effected by his/her relationships with people, and even lose a few friends in the process on his/her behalf... GET OUT!!
and when i say "GET OUT!!", i mean "GET THE FUCK OUTTA THAT FRIENDSHIP!!" cuz it's NOT a friendship. it's a clingy, weird, obsessive, over-posessive, pathetic fool who's too needy and has to deal with his/her own insecurities before even attempting to be anyone's "best friend".
the worst part is this person doesn't even have any idea that he/she does this sorta thing. it just happens naturally cuz he/she is so damn unbelievably needy.
keep this in mind. please. don't fall into this bs the way i did.
1) when you feel guilty about something, even though you've done nothing wrong... GET OUT!!
2) when you feel obligated to talk to this person or see this person everyday... GET OUT!!
3) when this person feels like your best friend within the span of 2 or 3 months, or even less than a year of knowing him/her... GET OUT!!
4) if you feel as though this person is sitting around, waiting for you to be free so that you guys can hang out... GET OUT!!
5) as soon as this person makes you feel suffocated... GET OUT!!
6) as soon as you feel as though you are this person's only friend and will have nothing better to do than call you or hang out with you... GET OUT!!
7) if this person gets jealous of any of your romantic endeavors... GET OUT!!
8) when you need to be putting a lot of effort into letting this person into your personal bubble because it's "the right thing to do"... GET OUT!!
9) when you start to get effected by his/her relationships with people, and even lose a few friends in the process on his/her behalf... GET OUT!!
and when i say "GET OUT!!", i mean "GET THE FUCK OUTTA THAT FRIENDSHIP!!" cuz it's NOT a friendship. it's a clingy, weird, obsessive, over-posessive, pathetic fool who's too needy and has to deal with his/her own insecurities before even attempting to be anyone's "best friend".
the worst part is this person doesn't even have any idea that he/she does this sorta thing. it just happens naturally cuz he/she is so damn unbelievably needy.
keep this in mind. please. don't fall into this bs the way i did.
posted by MsKarenAu at 11:42 AM
4 Comments:
I don't really agree with number 3. Both Grant and Elaine felt like best friends before I'd known them for a year and I don't think it's been an unhealthy friendship...
yea, that one was a little sketchy. although i personally think that we need to know someone for more than one year to know them well enough to really consider them "best friends" (for lack of a better term).
anyway, although most of the points can stand alone, some of them need to occur simultaneously with others to make the friendship unhealthy. i think #3 falls with the latter.
well, actually i confronted 'said person' yesterday and the day before about all this (mind you, he has no access to this thing, this isn't my regular blog) and yes, it was very harsh, very blunt.
thnx for the email notification.
(and in case you didn't notice, i ignored the "jealous of romances" thing. purposely. ha.)
Kay's always very blunt. This is what makes her posts enjoyable to read.
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